1) Easily Approachable
Approachable means someone who is easy to approach and strike up a conversation with. It is not easy to approach people in life; however, one must interact with and approach other people every single day, as it is a crucial aspect of survival. People may be intimidating, unfriendly, or rude, but one has to learn to ease up a conversation with warmth and invite the other person to join in.
During my life, dozens of people have come up to me and talked to me, rather than to the stranger standing next to me, even if it's to ask where the bathroom is or when the next bus is going to arrive. Why? Because I give off a friendly and approachable vibe, and I can strike up a conversation with a stranger and talk to them as if we've known each other for years.
Having such an interpersonal skill is not easy. Each person's innate nature varies and it may be some people's nature which makes them unapproachable. Thus, people should develop and work on this interpersonal skill in order become easily approachable.
2) Positive & Negative Language
When you are talking to a person, you get a positive or negative vibe from them. You cannot exactly pin point what exactly made you get that vibe, but it's there. When certain people talk, you can see through their facial expression, tone, and body language if they are emphasizing the positive (good) side of a topic or the negative (bad) side.
Since I have the ability to always try to think positive, no matter how bad the situation is, I also have the ability to express my positivity to the people around me. I try to alway smile, talk in a cheerful manner, and use positive words and phrases, no matter how difficult the issue at hand is.
In a conversation, it is important to always use positive words and phrases (such as yes, yes we can, let's work together), and not many negative words (such as no, I cannot do it, it's too hard). Positivity is contagious; once one person has it, it can spread easily to others around him or her, and can lead to a happier atmosphere.
This interpersonal skill does not come easily. It must be practiced, developed, and constantly improved. One should always be aware of his or her own words and should always use positive language rather than negative language.
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